-Laugh a lot. Keep fights clean, no name calling.
-Learn to compromise, not argue.
-Always leave with a hug & a kiss.
-Learn not to always say what you think.
-Have patience. Be forgiving. Sometimes you need to keep your comments to yourself.
-Always be open & honest. Talk about everything.
-Be slow to anger & quick to forgive.
-Marriage is what you make it.
-Learn to give & take.
-Always keep your husband first. If you keep him first & spoil him you will notice you get spoiled even more in return.
-Learn to laugh in the middle of a stupid fight.
-Enjoy the little things in life & your small times together.
-When your Papa & I got married he was told always kiss her goodbye when you go & when you get home & always good night. Be happy & have some grand youngins. & most important keep God in your life.
(This one was from my Mema. When I read this one it honestly hurt my heart A LOT. Because my Papa holds a special place in my heart. I have always been his "little girl" as he calls me. This one struck a chord with me because my Papa is not in the best of health. He's not in the worst but definitely not the best. & I have no intentions of having kids anytime soon. As I have mentioned before. Not to be morbid or doom & gloom I just don't know if he will actually get to see my kids one day. Honestly it made me cry & I felt really selfish. I was blessed to have my great grandparents in my life when I was a child. My kids may not have that & that makes me really sad. & selfish for possibly denying my Papa the joy of meeting my children one day. But then again I can't just start having babies for that reason. When I'm not ready. All I know is its in Gods timing. & it will happen like He wants it to happen. He's always got a plan.)
-Don't hit your hubby first thing when he gets home with problems or to do's. Give him time to come home, relax & enjoy coming home. Our homes should be a haven from the outside world.
(That is one of my favorites "our homes should be a haven from the outside world." A husband & wife should both strive to make their house a home. Somewhere away from the world they feel safe & relaxed. Somewhere where they're loved. That they can be theirselves & not worry about anything else. That's what I want my home to be.)
-Maintain good communication & a positive attitude.
-Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. You both have to give your all. Forget "me". It's now "us".
-Pick your battles. Think before you speak.
-Always put God first in everything.
-"Every good & perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights, who does not change like the shifting shadows." James 1:17. Always remember that our God is the giver of good gifts. I am so thankful He gave you to all of us.
(This one makes me smile. My mom in law wrote this one. I thank God everyday for Andrew & his family. I have in laws who do not feel like in laws. I feel like I've always been a part of the family. That is a blessing in itself. Not many people can say that. Now when I hear that verse I always think of my mom in law. :)
-Do not go to bed angry.
(I got this one multiple times. It's a biggy!)
-Never let a day go by without settling arguments.
-Do little things for each other.
-Become a life long student of becoming a better wife. Not trying to make him a better husband.
(Ouch! That ones a kick in the tail. How many of us wives try to pick out all the things wrong with our husband? But don't look at our own flaws?.....)
-Give 100% & expect nothing in return. You both will be blessed in this.
I can say I have followed some of these in my whole 10 months of married life. But most things I have a longgggggg way to go on. I love my husband. I'm so thankful God blessed me with him. I hope I can strive everyday to be the best wife for him. & when I screw up (cause Lord knows I do!) I want to learn from my mistakes & keep on moving forward.
What's some marriage advice you have received?