Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Marriage

I am not an expert on marriage at all. We are only going on a big fat 7 months of being married. But what I have learned so far is that you have to have 2 people willing to work for their marriage. It takes 100% from both sides. Its never 50/50. Marriage is really hard sometimes. But I also believe its one of the most wonderful things I will ever experience in my lifetime. Marriage is a covenant between two souls & God. At least it should be. It's not just a piece of paper.

Its really hit home for me in the past couple of months. There has been some friends of mine, who are younger than me (I'm 24) who are split up from their husbands. These girls aren't my closest friends, but still my friends. I know in today's world its pretty much the normal. My generation treats marriage as its disposable. Its not sacred anymore. It scares me because that could just as easily be me.You don't know what could happen tomorrow, next week or 10 years down the road. All I know to do is work hard for your marriage, try to be the best wife/husband you can every single day. & pray to God everyday to help you be a better version of yourself. Easier said than done I know. Hearing about people I know splitting up makes me take a step back for a second & look at my life & marriage. I hope that I'm a good wife to Andrew. I hope he knows how much I love him. How much I care about him, support him, need him, want him in my life. I try to show him these things every day. & never take him for granted.

Another thing I have learned is go into your marriage believing divorce is not an option. Andrew & I both live with this mentality. When we have a fight we don't even go near the subject of divorce. We might fight & carry on sometimes ,but we know at the end of the day we love each other, we are going to work through this. We are blessed to have his parents & mine still married. This is not the norm today. Growing up we both got to see what a strong steady Christian marriage looks like. Not saying that our parents were perfect, no one is. But we had great examples to follow. Which I feel like gives us even more of a higher standard to live by. We were taught what a marriage is supposed to look like. We have no excuses. (now obviously in some cases divorce may be necessary when there is abuse or other situations like that)

I love my Andrew. He's the best thing to ever happen to me. He may love to aggravate me, push my buttons, leave his clothes everywhere, be a stinky man! But he's mine. Forever & ever. & lets not forget he has to live with me too & my habits.. ( ya know like I'm an OCD freak an can't have anything out of place..) I wouldn't have it any other way.

The first picture we ever took together. I love this boy more than life!

13 comments:

  1. I love this..you said it perfectly :) It's so sad the way everyone treats relationships and marriage these days..it's scary. This is totally random but have you seen that swiffer commercial with the 2 old people trying to figure out how to use it? They're adorable! haha!

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    1. Thank you! Exactly! Its sad... Haha yes I have seen that! Old people are always so cute! lol

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  3. I love what you wrote about marriage. I have only been married for 9 months but I agree with everything you said. Some people forget that marriage takes work, it takes two people committed to the marriage. Just stumbled upon your blog and liking it so far.

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  5. It makes me sad when I hear about people getting a divorce. Great post! Thanks for sharing.

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